HUSBAND: My wife and I were equating Football playbooks with our “for-play cards” (more on that later). I was explaining that the two teams are strategic in knowing their opponents. They have a game plan specific and have a set of plays ready to run on them to make their goal. Then it came to me I had been considering my wife and me to be on opposing teams. Wow, really? I know my wife is not the opposition she is my star receiver.
WIFE: Scarred from an affair in my first marriage, I started my second marriage with a plan to be a sexual fantasy girl for my husband. Because some of my motives were stemmed in insecurity, sex became a source of conflict. Part of the problem was, that in my pre-occupation with being hot and sexy: I never asked him what he wanted from me, and I had not really considered what I truly wanted from him.
The Matthew chapter 7 and James chapter 4 have something to say about asking, receiving, and giving.